My aim here isn’t to make all of my personal posts about Trans or LGBT issues here, recently it has appeared that way cause there has been a lot on my mind when it comes to the topic lately. It’s not that I don’t think it should be discussed at length, I do, I just know there is so much more to me than a Queer Transguy and I want to share those parts of me as well. I guess today will kind of settle into that a little bit when it comes to getting a bit more personal.
I’m making this post more out of frustration and a need to get something off my chest that has been bothering me for a very long time and it’s only now that I am starting HRT that I have finally found the words to say it. Just because I am Feminine doesn’t make me any less of a man.
I’m sick and tired of getting dumb questions when it comes to small decisions that shouldn’t call into question my gender identity;
“You like girls? Are you sure you’re not just a lesbian?”
“You like guys? Why not just stay female, it’ll be easier,”
“If you think you’re a guy why do you listen to musical theatre?”
“If you’re going to be a guy you’re going to have to learn about cars,”
“Guys don’t like fashion”
Are we at a Motel six? No? Then get off my ass.
It’s really not anyone’s place to tell another person what they should and shouldn’t like based on their gender. If I had been born male, like I was supposed to be, I’m sure I still would have received criticism. I would prefer getting that than being treated like I am a confused girl who just wants attention.
Or treated like I’m crazy and trying to find an outlet. Trust me, if I was looking for a crazy outlet I doubt shoving a fake dong in my pants would be it….well…I mean maybe for some of the more kinky people out there but that’s another topic entirely.
Point being; I am a man who likes fashion, musical theatre, dance and anything else related to the arts in anyway. I also enjoy wearing purple shoes and listening to Lady Gaga. Do any of these things make me less of a man? I don’t think they should, no. I am so much more than these small things that build up to make me as a person. I am a complete human being and making me any less based upon my interests is just naive stereotyping and I really think that as a society it’s time we move past it.
I mean, I get it, as people we have this urge to always be important in some way. Putting your two cents in where ever you can is just a part of that. Not everything needs to involve you though and my gender identity is one of those things. I’m drifting into a different topic now but you all get what I am trying to say here.
Mind your own god damn business.
The world doesn’t revolve around your ideals and everyone is different and will like different things. If your son likes dolls, that doesn’t make him a girl or any less a boy. You want to know what it makes him? Your son. The same goes if you have a daughter who likes cars. I’m not saying to throw out all of your daughters pretty princess gowns or to tell your buddy that he is perpetuating stereotypes by being a mechanic. I’m just saying to let people like what they like regardless of gender.
And leave us Trans people alone. We know what we’re doing and we know how we feel. If I want to wear nail polish it’s no different than if any of my other male friends want to wear it. Just a dude in some nail polish, keep moving folks, nothing to see here.
As a side note; If you’re aware of my Trans status and you tell me how pretty I am and how it’s a shame I am transitioning and then fail to see why I’m uncomfortable after hearing that, we can’t be friends.
You know what, fuck it, this also goes out to the straight dudes who keep hitting on me even after I’ve told them. Your dick isn’t going to change my mind and make me magically turn into the woman of your dreams like some god damn fairytale curse. Move along dude, you’re wasting my time and yours and I am ten seconds away from breaking your nose if you keep this up. Or maybe I’ll hit on you after I’ve finished transitioning then you can understand just how uncomfortable it is.
I don’t know about you guys but I feel so much better having unloaded all of that. Like the day after having mind blowing sex…but still having the ability to walk. I really hope I didn’t get to whiny there but there are just some things that need to be said and once I started typing I just kind of word yarled all over the page, my bad.
If you’ve read this far you’re a beautiful human
Almost as beautiful as a certain someone we all know.
Till next time everyone
Stay Tobly awesome!